I’ve been pondering on this text message since I received it.

I don’t know but probably some people enter a relationship without actually knowing what a relationship is and what it really involves. At times, people are lead by their emotions, and a lot of times, their carnal desires into diving into a relationship (romantic), worse a committed relationship without deeply thinking what and how it should be and its implications. I’ve never been into a romantic relationship before, but stories of whoever’s make me think that a committed relationship involves hard-work. Loving alone is not what a relationship should be based on, but rather the willingness to compromise and enter each other’s world.  Maybe with these factors, people would more likely have successful relationships --- I guess.

When we were young, we were lead to believe in fairy tales and happy-ever-afters. Love is always romantic and it sweeps us off our feet --- and that’s how it should be, they told us. Well yeah, this is innate in relationships, but the true test of love springs from each others enthusiasm to explore each other’s world.

“Fairy tales don’t always have a happy ending” (Fergie’s Big Girls Don’t Cry)

I agree because loving is not only sharing in the delights that life gives us or the benefits one gets from the other person. Rather, love also tells us to traverse life’s bumps and bruises and hardships and all negative forces --- together --- but how? Communication is the answer perhaps. By mutual exchange of ideas, one learns and finds out the needs and experiences of the other person. What moves them, their beliefs, their dreams, their hopes and their expectations. Misunderstanding is inevitable yeah, but, by learning how to be open and receptive to the other person and by treating them with respect, both can find their way even in the most difficult situations. Both have to listen carefully to each other’s heart and understand what each other has to say.

Stepping into a committed relationship is a journey that one takes with another person. Loving and caring for each other with an open heart, one will find that he or she can attain personal transformation. Evolving along the way and learning lessons about oneself that one might not be able to do on his or her own.

I guess that’s how it should be. Well probably it’s just me. I don’t know. But for now, that’s what I believe in. I’m going to wait and see…